Internet dating relies upon writing emails. This is the only way you can keep the person interested in you and hopefully end up meeting them. Therefore it's important that your personality comes across and the content is interesting so that the reader feels that they want to meet you.
Try and avoid emails of just one line such as 'how are you?' You are not going to get a long reply from this question as it doesn't leave the reader with much of an idea of what else to write. Perhaps explain what you have been up to and try and think of something interesting you did that day or an interesting story you read in the paper/saw in the news. Try and sound as natural as possible.
If you know that the person you are emailing is interested in music you could tell them about a song you heard on the radio or an album you recently bought. If they enjoy sport try and find out which team they support, if they play the sport they watch etc. You never know what interesting facts you may find out about someone. As an example a friend of mine was chatting with a man about what sports he played and found out that he used to play for a Premiership football club when he was a teenager but had to give it up because of a knee injury!
The first email you write is the important one. If you like it's the bate that you are trying to get them to bite on. Make sure you read the person's profile carefully and try and find something they mention that you have in common. This could be anything from drinking wine to walking up mountains. For the first one you could introduce yourself by saying what your favourite wine is and why and then ask them what they enjoy. If you enjoy music you could discuss a recent gig you went to or album you bought. Make sure you write about something you really are interested in or you may not be able to keep the 'conversations' going. One of the best hooks I ever heard about was someone wrote about how they hated cats in their profile. Someone saw this and wrote back how a cat had landed them in hospital but didn't say why so the chap had to email back to find out how it happened!! You have to keep the other person interested and a good way seems to be leaving a cliff hanger!!
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Top Tips for online dating
Online Dating can be a minefield. Here are some of our top tips. If you have some you would like to add please leave a comment.
- Be Honest!
This may seem obvious but don't try and be someone you are not. The more honest you are about yourself the more likely you are to meet someone you really connect with.
- Be positive
No one likes to hear someone complain all the time. Make sure you put in some positive comments in your profile and emails. This will help you come across as a happy person.
- Read the person's profile properly
This will help when it comes to communicating with them and will help you decide if they are right for you. There may be some interesting facts about them that can help draft the first email.
- Ask Questions
Find out as much as you can about the person you are emailing. People generally like to talk about themselves so ask about hobbies/interests/their job etc.
- Try and write naturally
- Take it slowly
People are easily put off if you give them your phone number in the first email. It sounds a bit desparate even if you are being friendly.
- Don't give out too much personal information
Be careful about how much information you give someone until you are able to trust them. People don't need much information these days to track you down!
- Be reliable
Try and respond to emails as quickly as possible. If you don't you may miss your chance as other people may also be in the frame. If your not interested let someone know rather than leaving them hanging. Manners still apply on the internet!
- Try and find common ground
If you can find common interests it will make communicating easier. It may also lead to hints as to where to go for your first date!
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